Two words for you… Energy and Optimism.

I have this theory that by exuding energy and optimism in a situation one will always leave a memorable impression. Whether you are looking to connect with an exec or simply trying to interact with someone at the bar, E&O is the key to creating that memorable conversation.

Recently I was out Vlora (check it out if have never been) with Jake (DartBoston), Thomas (Professional Wingman) and Laurie (eFlirt Expert) and naturally the conversation turned to relationships.  Jake was looking for perspective from the dating experts about an experience where he struck up a conversation with someone he found interesting at the gym.  Somehow the conversation turned to all the reasons why he shouldn’t have approached this poor damsel.

While the arguments being made by the dating expert duo may be true, why harp on the reasons one shouldn’t do something?   Thankfully someone chimed in, “why are we talking about the problems of the situation?  Let’s give the man some solutions!”  The conversation quickly made more of an impact as everyone had to think hard about how to turn the situation into a positive one.

Now when it comes to energy, it’s all about getting excited and passionate.  For example, take a look at Jason Calacanis on his show, This Week in Startups (great show to watch for all those young entrepreneurs out there!).  The guy is super passionate about helping entrepreneurs with their start-ups.  You can see this genuine passion pour out of him as he talks to those who call into his show or when he’s interviewing his guests.  This energy makes the show more fun and engaging and I’m hooked because of it!

If you end up in a conversation where it feels like small talk and you can’t hold your focus try asking the other person what they do when the 5pm workday ends.  I think you will find that the other person will open up as they describe things that they actually care about.  To make sure the conversation stays enjoyable, bring the energy as well, be excited for the other person.  Find an aspect of what they do that you care about and exploit that commonality.  The energy will be high, the conversation will be fun and you will have created a positive memorable connection with the other person.

I would challenge everyone to be conscious of their conversations today and beware of the tone.  If the conversation turns to small talk, how can you add in your passion to create the energy?  If the conversation becomes negative how can you play devil’s advocate and throw in an optimistic spin?

Bring the E&O and I bet you will see that your conversations will not only be more enjoyable but you will leave a more memorable impression on others too!

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